- 'Time to Kiss the Mommy Wars Goodbye' -Tracy Thompson
- 'Everybody Hates Linda'-Judith Stadtman Tucker
A Mommy With An Attitude:
- 'What the Hell Is Caitlin Flanagan Talking About? The Good, The Bad, And The Baffling!'
- On The Whole Mom: Essay: Having It All
'The Hardships of Being a Mom to a Special Needs Child' on the Whole Mom, Laura J.
From Shape of a Mother:
Poet Tree (Sam Kolber):
make a deal with Coca-cola to research funding a few years back? Whew. When I first read this, my immediate reaction was: How Ironic.
Why is it that the media and all these certified 'organizations' tell us what is right for our children, and make us feel guilty if we are not following the guidelines?
Perhaps co-sleeping is right for some and not for others. I am all for the co-sleeping. It has seen me through alot of nursing nights when The Girl was just a wee babe and it enabled me to get some much needed sleep. She doesn't nurse much during the night these days and we still happily co-sleep.
this one. Post-Partum Depression in men that are Dads?
This is just a guess, but I think-hmmm-yes, I think it may have something to do with hormones, actually.
Is it any surprise, too, that both of the people they have chosen to quote are both men?
Here are some snippets:
Fathers usually feel elation after a birth, Coleman said, but that feeling of "engrossment" can fade away, depending on family circumstances.
That can happen "if the mother is very, very controlling and wants the baby all to herself," Coleman said. "Also, fathers can experience frustration, sexual and emotional, if they forget to remember that the wife is not interested in sex at that time. If the wife is very motherly and maternal, he might feel kind of useless, on the periphery."
Depression in a father leads to a well-known pattern of behavior, Coleman said. "He tends to work longer, to watch sports more, to drink more and be solitary," he said.
If they forget to remember?
Alright, I don't doubt men feel alone, neglected, ostracized, ignored, and -dare I say it-sexually starved.
The attention has shifted. The roles of Motherhood and Fatherhood are, indeed, different and difficult at times. In some cultures, the father isn't even involved until after the child is weaned.
I also don't doubt that the father feels and experiences some sort of depression after a baby is born. It is a huge change. But I wouldn't call it postpartum depression.